(1) Dozens of prison letters sent to Chris Watts in which women and men profess their love for the triple murderer and send sexy photos https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6512995/DOZENS-prison-letters-sent-Chris-Watts-women-men-profess-love-murderer.html
The Daily Mail says that both men and women sent admiring letters to the killer, but somehow they don’t manage to quote any from men.
A majority of the letters were from women, and many of these included photos that the sender purported to be of them as well as promises to send more images or add money to Watts’ commissary account.
The article also notes that “Some of his mail is not supportive with many telling him they hope he’s raped and attacked behind bars over the sick murders.” It’s nice that some people have appropriate reactions to a man who murdered his pregnant wife and two daughters. (Jesus!) But: How many nice guys get bikini photos from hot babes (see the link) trying to establish a relationship?
(2) Shocker: Mattress girl is attracted to masculine man
During the summer of 2018, [Columbia mattress girl Emma] Sulkowicz tells me, she was single for the first time in years. Swiping through Tinder, a man she found “distasteful” super-liked her. “It smelled like Connecticut,” she says of his profile. “He was very blond, law school, cut jawline, trapezoidal body figure, tweed suit kind of vibe, but something inside of me made me swipe right, I don’t know.”
That “but” is hilarious. Do women not understand themselves, or do they think we don’t understand them?
They began messaging, and she found him witty. “He was actually way more fun to talk to than any other person I matched with.”
(3) ‘Mad Men’ actress Christina Hendricks files for divorce from her husband of 10 years, actor Geoffrey Arend
This is a classic case of what happens when the women’s career situation puts her at a significantly higher status level than her man’s:
Hendricks was nominated for Emmy Awards for six straight years for AMC’s “Mad Men,” and now stars in the NBC crime drama “Good Girls.” Arend starred on the CBS drama “Madam Secretary” [some show that no one watches].
Also, look at the photo at the link. Their attractiveness differential is heavily in favor of Hendricks. Here’s another pic of her:
Such an attractiveness differential is not a problem normally because the man’s looks aren’t as important to his sexual market value as a woman’s. His frame and social status are much more important. But of course that’s the problem here. He’s both uglier than her and now in terms of social status is lower on the totem pole than her. Bets on who initiated the divorce?
Note the headline: “Christina Hendricks files for divorce…”
The two announced their separation in a statement in October, saying they had an incredible time together, but are now on separate paths though they “will always work together to raise our two beautiful dogs.”
(4) Very much related to the above: Top jobs lead to divorce for women, but not for men
(Via Ben Gadwin at https://twitter.com/sovereignfamily/status/1211534825519116289)
Combining an enriching career and a loving relationship is a goal for many people. But for women, this goal still presents higher hurdles, even in the most gender-equal countries in the world. Our research on Sweden finds that women pay a high price for their career success. Being promoted to a top job in politics or business leads to a dramatic increase in the divorce rate for women, but not for men.
The article proceeds to not mention at all who is initiating the divorces which, apparently, fall out of the sky and land on these poor, helpless women. I don’t know about Sweden, but in the U.S., about seventy-five percent of divorces are initiated by women. In other words, this is classic female hypergamy. A wife’s status rises relative to her husband’s ➞ she initiates divorce.
The article acknowledges this, several paragraphs down:
We get closer to understanding the reasons for women’s divorces by zooming in on which relationships are more likely to end after the promotion. This detective work leads to suggestive evidence about couple formation. Heterosexual women — both those that aim for a top job and those who do not — often enter relationships with men who are older and earn more money than they do. Men, in contrast, often have younger wives with lower-paying jobs. The tendency for women to “marry up” means that their own promotion to a top job could create particular frictions at home. The economic and status balance that the couple used to have gets out of balance.
All they tell us about the data is:
In the Swedish data, divorces after promotion are concentrated to couples in which the wife was younger than her husband by a larger margin and where the wife took a larger share of the parental leave. The situation looks entirely different in more gender-equal couples. For women with a smaller gap in age to their spouse, and who split parental leave more equally with their partner, divorce is not affected by the wife’s promotion.
Let’s re-play a part of that passage: “divorces after promotion are concentrated to couples in which the wife was younger than her husband by a larger margin…” I suspect that’s proxying the wife simply being younger, period. That is, she has more sexual marketplace options.
(5) October 2019: Men with psychopathic traits are more attractive to women, study suggests
Not that we didn’t already know this, but…
“Psychopathic men have a personality style that makes them appear attractive to women in dating encounters. This may be because they are extra confident or feel at ease or know exactly what to say to get the attention of women,” Brazil told PsyPost.
(But how do they know what to say to get the attention of women?)
The researchers asked 46 male students at a Canadian university to participate in a video-recorded, mock dating scenario with a female research assistant. The assistant began the conversation by asking the participant what he liked to do on a first date or what he thought was important in a relationship.
The male participants also completed assessments of psychopathy, social intelligence and sociosexuality.
Afterward, the researchers had 108 women view the dating videos and rate each man on general attractiveness, sexual attractiveness and confidence, and leave voice messages.
Brazil and Forth found that men who scored higher on the psychopathy assessment were also rated more desirable by women.
The researchers concluded that their results “suggest that psychopathy in men may enable them to ‘enact’ the desirable qualities women prefer in social and dating encounters,” according to Psychology Today.
However, the researchers said these traits likely only help men on a short-term basis.
“Another important caveat to consider is that even though psychopathy may have these benefits of attracting others, there are enormous costs and risks to being psychopathic that helps clarify why not more people are psychopathic,” Brazil explained to PsyPost.
It is true that there must be costs as well as benefits of psychopathy, or all men would be psychopaths. Also, the benefit to being a psychopath certainly is a decreasing function of the number of psychopaths in the social environment. If every man were a psychopath, women would be aware of psychopathic mating strategies like casual lying and wouldn’t trust anything men said. But if they don’t trust men’s statements, then lying conveys no advantage. If the proportion of psychopaths is small, and most men a woman encounters are honest most of the time, then she’ll be trusting, so lying will be believed and will be advantageous. Similarly, psychopaths tend to “have an inflated sense of importance,” as the article notes, which can present to women as self-confidence (at least in the short run). But if all men had an inflated sense of importance, it would contain no mating advantage in terms of standing out from the average.
One angle on Game: It gives normal men an advantage over psychopaths, since normal men are able to form normal emotional attachments, which is good for long-term mating strategies, while also teaching men to use certain behaviors that woman are attracted to in a short-run sense (self-importance, etc.), which can be effective short-run mating strategies.